How to Become an Ideal Leader
When you are at work, do you get frustrated because things
don’t seem to be happening the way they’re supposed to be? You see people
milling around but nothing gets accomplished. And in the daily hustle and
bustle, do you feel that your goals remain just that – goals. Then maybe its
time for you to stand up and do something about it.
Most people are content just to stand around listening for
orders. And it isn’t unusual to adopt a follow-the-leader mentality. But maybe,
somewhere inside of you, you feel the desire to make things happen – to be the
head, not the tail. Then maybe leadership just suits you fine.



Some people believe that great leaders are made, not born.
Yes, it may be true that some people are born with natural talents. However,
without practice, without drive, without enthusiasm, and without experience,
there can be no true development in leadership.
You must also remember that good leaders are continually
working and studying to improve their natural skills. This takes a commitment
to constantly improve in whatever endeavor a person chooses.
First of all, let’s define leadership. To be a leader, one
must be able to influence others to accomplish a goal, or an objective. He
contributes to the organization and cohesion of a group.
Contrary to what most people believe, leadership is not
about power. It is not about harassing people or driving them using fear. It is
about encouraging others towards the goal of the organization. It is putting
everyone on the same page and helping them see the big picture of the
organization. You must be a leader not a boss.
First of all, you have to get people to follow you. How is
this accomplished?
People follow others when they see a clear sense of purpose.
People will only follow you if they see that you know where you are going.
Remember that bumper sticker? The one that says, don’t follow me, I’m lost too?
The same holds true for leadership. If you yourself do not know where you’re
headed to, chances are people will not follow you at all.



You yourself must know the vision of the organization.
Having a clear sense of hierarchy, knowing who the bosses are, who to talk to,
the organization’s goals and objectives, and how the organization works is the
only way to show others you know what you are doing.
Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It’s about
who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what
you’re subordinates must be.
Studies have shown that one other bases of good leadership
is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you. If they trust you
they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organization.
Trust and confidence is built on good relationships,
trustworthiness, and high ethics.
The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you
build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your
relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities.
Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now
proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake.
Communication is a very important key to good leadership.
Without this you can not be a good leader. The knowledge and technical
expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people.
Also, you can not be a good leader and unless you have good
judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any
decision, and actively seek out a solution.
It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely
upon. Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your
organization.
Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to
know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.
You should recognize and take advantage of the skills and
talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realization will you
be able to work as one cohesive unit.
Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time.
It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. It
is about you and the people around you.
So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required
of leaders? Do you have the desire to work Do Yoda Proud: Meditation 101
Meditation refers to a state where your body and mind are
consciously relaxed and focused.
Practitioners of this art report increased awareness, focus, and
concentration, as well as a more positive outlook in life.
Meditation is most commonly associated with monks, mystics
and other spiritual disciplines.
However, you don’t have to be a monk or mystic to enjoy its
benefits.  And you don’t even have to be
in a special place to practice it.  You
could even try it in your own living room!
Although there are many different approaches to meditation,
the fundamental principles remain the same.
The most important among these principles is that of removing
obstructive, negative, and wandering thoughts and fantasies, and calming the
mind with a deep sense of focus.  This
clears the mind of debris and prepares it for a higher quality of activity.
The negative thoughts you have – those of noisy neighbors,
bossy officemates, that parking ticket you got, and unwanted spam– are said to
contribute to the ‘polluting’ of the mind, and shutting them out is allows for
the ‘cleansing’ of the mind so that it may focus on deeper, more meaningful
thoughts.
Some practitioners even shut out all sensory input – no
sights, no sounds, and nothing to touch – and try to detach themselves from the
commotion around them.  You may now focus
on a deep, profound thought if this is your goal.  It may seem deafening at first, since we are
all too accustomed to constantly hearing and seeing things, but as you continue
this exercise you will find yourself becoming more aware of everything around
you.
If you find the meditating positions you see on television
threatening – those with impossibly arched backs, and painful-looking
contortions – you need not worry.  The
principle here is to be in a comfortable position conducive to concentration.  This may be while sitting cross-legged,
standing, lying down, and even walking.
If the position allows you to relax and focus, then that
would be a good starting point.  While
sitting or standing, the back should be straight, but not tense or tight.  In other positions, the only no-no is
slouching and falling asleep.
Loose, comfortable clothes help a lot in the process since
tight fitting clothes have a tendency to choke you up and make you feel tense.
The place you perform meditation should have a soothing
atmosphere.  It may be in your living
room, or bedroom, or any place that you feel comfortable in.  You might want an exercise mat if you plan to
take on the more challenging positions (if you feel more focused doing so, and
if the contortionist in you is screaming for release).  You may want to have the place arranged so
that it is soothing to your senses.
Silence helps most people relax and meditate, so you may
want a quiet, isolated area far from the ringing of the phone or the humming of
the washing machine.  Pleasing scents
also help in that regard, so stocking up on aromatic candles isn’t such a bad
idea either.
The monks you see on television making those monotonous
sounds are actually performing their mantra.
This, in simple terms, is a short creed, a simple sound which, for these
practitioners, holds a mystic value.
You do not need to perform such; however, it would pay to
note that focusing on repeated actions such as breathing, and humming help the
practitioner enter a higher state of consciousness.
The principle here is focus.
You could also try focusing on a certain object or thought, or even,
while keeping your eyes open, focus on a single sight.
One sample routine would be to – while in a meditative state
– silently name every part of you body and focusing your consciousness on that
part. While doing this you should be aware of any tension on any part of your
body.  Mentally visualize releasing this
tension.  It works wonders.
In all, meditation is a relatively risk-free practice and
its benefits are well worth the effort (or non-effort – remember we’re
relaxing).
Studies have shown that meditation does bring about
beneficial physiologic effects to the body.
And there has been a growing consensus in the medical community to
further study the effects of such.  So in
the near future, who knows, that mystical, esoteric thing we call meditation
might become a science itself!

 

cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your
stand and be leader today.